Sexual harrassment

So today the 'news' is full of females who have been 'sexually harassed'.  Females who have worked in parliament and have been degraded by men.  Females who have kept quiet because they thought that was how life in the work place was.  Females who didn't think that they would have a 'voice' or females who thought they wouldn't be believed.

Today, at work, a man touched me on my arm while asking me a question.  His mates all said, 'You can't do that.  She can accuse you of sexual harassment.' My reply to that was; 'I haven't got to my age in life without a bit of sexual harassment. I think I can cope with someone touching me on the arm.'

Soooo................... the questions is.................... what exactly is 'sexual harassment'?

I entered the workplace in the early 1980s where men were men & women were women.  Actually I entered the workforce long before that but for sexual harassment purposes lets skip to 1980 I distinctly remember in 1980 working in a temporary office job, and my sister came in to visit me, and my boss said; 'She's got bigger tits than you'.  It was true - she did have bigger tits than me.  My boss had made an accurate observation.  Was I upset by his comment?  Probably - but only because he had voiced what I already knew - my sister did have bigger tits than me.  Did I feel undervalued or less of a woman because of what he said?  No I didn't because I think at the grand old age of 20 years old................. I just thought................... what a silly little Pratt he is.  He was probably only in his 30s and had a wife and two kids and I remember feeling sorry for her and the kids because I thought he was such a wanker.  He used to swan around the place with his beer belly toppling over the top of his trousers, thinking he was GOD!

Things haven't actually changed that much in the last 30 years......................

................Men are still men................. And women are still women.

However.......................... it would seem that the men still seem to think they can do what they want to women .....................And the women are rebelling.

Today if a 'manager' said to an 'employee' - 'Your sister has bigger tits than you', that would be seen as sexual harassment, the employee's self esteem would be at rock bottom, they'd have to have counselling for such a traumatic comment and would probably have to be signed off work for months while they got over the stress of it all.  Seriously???

Whilst I am not 'dissing' anyone's genuine experiences of stress, anxiety or depression....................  Let's just get a bit real here peeps.....................

..................What exactly is sexual harassment???

Sexual harassment is not someone touching you on the arm, it's not someone saying your sister has bigger tits than you, it's not someone commenting on how good looking you are.

To be honest, I'm not actually sure how I would define sexual harassment..............................

....................Guess I'd better do a bit of googling.......................

Are 'fat' people unfit?

I've just been reading a magazine article entitled, 'Are fat people unfit'?  And to be honest I'm not sure if I know the answer to that question.

However, there does seem to be a lot more 'fat' people around these days than there ever was when I was a child.  I have also read an article (in a high class newspaper) this week that said that the 'average family' eats out/has a takeaway three times a week.  To be honest, I find that hard to believe.  Eating out and take aways are not cheap.  How can the 'average family' afford to do that?

Anyway; to get back to; 'Are fat people unfit?'..........................  I'm not sure....................

I have a few 'fat' friends.  I also have some 'skinny' friends.  Are my fat friends less fit than my skinny friends?...................... I honestly don't know?  My 'fat' friends go to the gym, go swimming, go walking.  My 'skinny' friends drink copious quantities of alcohol, are always out eating and never seem to do any kind of exercise.

Sooooooo........................  how do we measure if someone is unfit, unhealthy, medically overweight?

...............That's another question that I don't know the answer to.

However, today I spent the day with two 'fat' friends.  And to be honest both of them have lost a couple of stone over the last few months.  BUT their attitude to food and mine is completely different.

We all had a bacon & (fried)sausage roll at about 11am, (friends then had a 'jammy dodger biscuit).  We went for a three and a half mile walk (which was pretty much on the flat) ending up at a pub for lunch at 2pm-ish.  I was still full from the bacon & sausage roll so opted for a 'small' portion of 'haddock & chips'.  One of my friends had a HUGE portion of 'scampi & chips' and the other had 'French onion soup and then deep fried brie'.  (Obviously both were high calories choices??)

After that I had a black coffee and they had some more 'Jammy Dodgers'.

And then I wanted to go for another walk but they were like........................ we've done a lot of exercise today.

It's very difficult to know whether fat people are unfit or not.  I don't actually consider myself to be 'fat'........................ BUT I do consider myself to be unfit (even though at the moment I'm swimming 200 lengths a week and walking for 2 hours a day).

I guess everything is relative???  Ie, I'm not 'fat' compared to 'fat' people.  I'm not 'unfit' compared to unfit people.

.....................However, compared to fit, skinny, energetic people.......................... I'm a big fat slob. LOL!!!!